10 Relationship Myths

Every couple dreams of a “Happily ever after.” The idea of riding on into the sunset with your “prince or princess charming.” Unfortunately, these fantasies only belong in movies or story books and believing too much in them could hinder your REAL, ACTUAL relationship.

Here are the top relationship myths to watch out for:

 1.  My Soulmate Will Complete Me

The “right” one is the person who knows how to support you in your journey of completing yourself.  Your “soulmate” must be that someone who complements what you have.  Hoping for somebody else to complete you will only bring disappointment and lead to heartbreak.

2.  A New Relationship Will Make Me Happy

A new relationship is always happy, fresh and exciting.  You see all the positive and good aspects of your partner.  At some point it will end and reality will set in.  Challenges will happen and how you will ride them out will set the tone of your relationship.

3.  My Right Relationship Will Last Forever

Forever in a relationship should really be worked on.  Communication between couples should be of the highest priority.  Honest conversations about our lives, our likes and dislikes and our priorities should be expressed constantly.

 4.  After the First Rough Patches, Everything Will Fall Into Place

A relationship is a long term deal and there is no one-time quick fixes for its kinks.  There should be a balance of freedom and restraint, difficulty and ease.

5.  Sacrifices are Important for a Lasting Relationship

When one of the person in a relationship compromises their beliefs or career in favor of their partner’s, it will begin to breed resentment.  Sacrifices are often the reasons for a spouse’s losing their own self-worth. This may happen instantly or in time.  The best thing to do is to communicate in a way that respects each other values.

6.  Great Sex Happens Only in the Honeymoon Stages of a Relationship

Intimacy is very important to continue in a healthy long lasting relationship.  Keeping the fire burning alive after years of familiarity is crucial.  Understanding your partner and open conversations, set out real expectations (including the list here)  and let your love and desire for each other continue to grow.

7.  Everything Just Comes Out Naturally in the Right Relationship

Some people entertain the idea a relationship unfold naturally.  This is definitely not true.  A healthy, great relationship is like growing a plant; it needs a whole lot of nurturing, effort and concentration.

8.  My Life is Incomplete if I am Not in a Relationship with Someone

Some people just get into a relationship because they feel lonely.  We all know that in some relationships, individuals may feel miles apart from the person they are sharing their life with.   Be happy with yourself and then with somebody else. Relationships should be based on you really wanting to be with that person.

9.  Children Complete a Marriage

Having children are not what should bound two persons together. Bringing up children can even be the sources of additional difficulties and quarrels in a couple. The decision to procreate requires a higher level of maturity and commitment that you should be very sure of in your relationship.

10.  Opposites Attract

All of us have the capacity to love, to be hurt, to desire and to hope.  There are no true opposites, only apparent ones.  Everything that you see in yourself is also in your partner.  You are the same, just expressed differently.