Being Right or Being Happy: The difference can mean your health

New Scientific Evidence Proves Culprit to an Early Death

Communication is part and parcel of life. Every day we communicate with friends, family, and work related colleagues. One difficult aspect of communication is disagreement. They may leads to arguments, which, especially when repeated, can definitely lead to an early grave.

Dr. Likke Lund and his research team from the University of Copenhagen in Denmark have found some eye opening results. They had previously demonstrated that healthy and happy relationships with friends, family and work peers or supervisors would lead to longer lives. Looking at the other side of the coin, they have now considered the opposite of healthy social interactions—namely, argumentation.

The results of this study were published in Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health. Here are some salient facts.

• The study utilized a group of 9,875 men and women. Their ages ranged from 36 and 52.
•  They were given questions on common daily social interactions. These mainly focused on the ones that would have or generate stress, conflict or worrying anxiety.
• These participants’ health was then tracked for 11 years. From the period of 2000-2011 utilizing the Danish Cause of Death Registry.
• Nearing 2011 the study showed 226 men and 196 women passed away.
• The leading causes of death for the participants were cancer. This was followed by heart diseases, strokes, liver problems, suicides and accidents.
• Based on the questionnaires, 10% of the participants worried about their children or their partners. This was a reported cause of consistent worry.
• 6 % worried about their larger extended families and 2%worried about their friends and friendships.
• A significant conclusion is seen from the increase in risk of death by a much as 50%-100% when worry on children and partners becomes a seed for arguments.

In conclusion the study found out that there is 100% to as much as 300% risk of early death when people consistently argue with family and friends.

This clearly indicates that high stress induced by arguments can increase risk to an early demise. Medical science points to the fact that stressful conditions such as constant arguments can increase high blood pressure, increase risk to angina and many other early killers.

What are the major causes of arguments?

The Need to be (always) Right –

Very few people can take the admission of making a mistake. It is very difficult to do and most people just want to be right. This is a major cause of arguments and if you do this then you are literally digging an early grave. Be open minded, take the opinions of others and always think before you speak. Remember everybody makes mistakes.

Impossible Demands –

If you want or ask of something from someone use a little bit of empathy.  Ask yourself if your expectations towards an individual are realistic in this person’s mind. An open minded inner examination might just surprise you. Talk, communicate by expressing what you feel and do not expect having control over other’s attitude.

Blamestorming—

Take responsibility instead of looking for someone to blame. Blaming will never lead to progress but to more arguments and conflicts and as the study found out …. an early death.

So do you want to be Right or Live Longer?

The common string holding the above is rejection. This is probably the one thing you need to focus on to improve in your life. Blamestorming, being self-righteous and unrealistics demands lead you to constant rejection. Your negative attitude will make your work, social and family circle to shun you and this will lead to an early mortality.

Get a little bit of peace and serenity. Do a bit of self-examination, open your mind and take this sound scientific advice to good health and wellness.